Part of the chastity game involves the game of the key holder having the final say in the release of the keyhole's penis. Part of the fun is the mystery of what that looks like for the one who is locked. Will you decide that only you get to receive an orgasm or are you going to allow your poor boy some pleasure? Let's talk about option s for how your boy's locked up member can be "rewarded" lets talk about options for his orgasm.
Did you know that there are different types of orgasms that a man can have? The three basic types are:
The Full Orgasm
Just what is a "Full Orgasm" anyway? Well, that depends on who you ask. For most men it is that series of all too rapidly diminishing, explosive blasts of semen that follows a few minutes of penile massage while fantasizing over some photo in a magazine, or watching an erotic video on the Internet, or during those private moments in the shower. If he is with a women, it is the same rapidly diminishing, explosive blasts of semen that fills her womb at the end of, what could have been, a wonderful sexual experience. His ejaculate (semen) is that white, gooey substance that signals the end of every sexual encounter he has probably ever had or ever will have.
The full (or normal) orgasm is the most common and may be the only type your partner has ever had. When he masturbates (and every man has at one time or another) he experiences a full orgasm, unless he gets interrupted for some reason. When he has intercourse, he has a full orgasm. His wet dreams end with a full orgasm. In other words, that is the normal manner in which most (if not all) of his sexual encounters end. And that is the key point here. His sexual capacity normally ends with this orgasm. On rare occasions, a young healthy male "might" be able to continue sexual activity and even have a second orgasm. But we are talking about the average male here, not some adolescent sexual athlete.
But whatever you think it is, it is NOT the preferred outcome of a tease and denial session with a chaste male. It is what he says he wants, but it is not what he really wants. It is what I described in the first paragraph of this chapter. But what, then, did I mean when I said, " It is what he says he wants, but not what he really wants?" Men who really enjoy chastity (wearing a device that prevents sexual intercourse) and want to have their orgasms (ejaculations) controlled by another person, don't "really'' want to have a full orgasm. They want to be denied that orgasm. That, after all, is the point of "tease and denial," isn't it? But we will get into that later.
Every woman who has ever had sex with a man knows that when he ejaculates, he is pretty much done. If she has not been totally satisfied before that happens, she can forget getting what she wants for awhile. Probably the rest of the day (or night). So how do we make both of these people happy? Simple! Deny him an orgasm, at least until she has been totally satisfied.
Let's recap. She wants her own orgasm to feel satisfied. He doesn't want to have an orgasm (in the traditional sense) even though he will beg for it. If you are trying to understand the mentality here, don't! Just accept the fact that in the game of male chastity, it is his job to do anything and everything in his power to convince his KeyHolder to grant him a full orgasm. Thus, he wins the game, or this round, anyway. It is the KeyHolder's job to deny him that orgasm for as long as she possibly can while, at the same time, getting every bit of sexual satisfaction she wants for herself. It sounds more difficult than it really is.
Now let's look at the typical male orgasm and what it does to him. It causes his body to release certain hormones and endorphins that control things such as sexual arousal and the blood flow to the penis (which is what keeps it hard). That is an over-simplification of what happens but the end result is the same. He loses all interest in sexual activity. He may even become grumpy and out of sorts for up to a week (or even longer), and he will (most likely) not even be able to produce an erection without proper rest.
Whoa there. What was that about being grumpy and out of sorts? Right. He may very well be more difficult to live with once his sexual appetite has been satisfied. If that isn't enough incentive for you to deny him a full orgasm, I don't what is.
So, if he is going to be hard to live with simply because you granted him and orgasm, what can you do instead? Well, of course, the obvious answer is to deny him that orgasm. But what else is there? I am so glad you asked that question. Let's see what happens if you stop just in time to prevent him from ejaculating. There is another way to play that can prevent all this lack of sexual arousal and grumpy behavior.
Full orgasm ideas that might make your man squirm
- Hand job
- Foot job
- Leg job
- Penetrative sex
- Outercourse
- Supervised masturbation
The Ruined Orgasm
So what is a "ruined" orgasm, anyway? Put simply, it as an orgasm without all the negative after effects of a full orgasm. In other words, no diminished sexual drive, no inability to maintain an erection, and no grumpy behavior for the the next week or so. However, he will not enjoy it nearly as much (if at all) as he would a full orgasm. Oh well, he will get over it.
The best way to ruin his orgasm is simply by stopping ALL stimulation of his sexual organs. That is, stop touching his genitals in any way. If you do it in time, you may see him struggle to have that nice full ejaculation he has been trying so desperately to achieve, only to have his semen come flowing gently out of his penis instead of shooting half way across the room as it normally does. That would be a ruined orgasm. The best part about a ruined orgasm, besides the disappointed look on his face, is the fact that none of the normal post orgasmic conditions occur. That is, he will not lose interest in sexual activity. He will not become grumpy and out of sorts for the next few days to a week. And he will still be able to maintain his erection for as long as you would like him to. Win, win, win!
Of course, he may be slightly disappointed that he did not get the feeling of relief he is so used to after he ejaculates. On the bright side, you can continue doing whatever it was you were doing prior to the interruption. Since he will be able to maintain his erection, you can do pretty much anything you could do before the orgasm happened. In fact, you may be able to coax two or even three more of those nice little ruined orgasms out of him before his supply of semen is exhausted. How about that for fun?
So, if you simply cannot take any more of his begging, whining, or maybe even crying. Try ruining his orgasm instead of allowing him a full one. Besides, it is fun watching his semen flow gently from the end of penis instead of shooting out on some unpredictable trajectory.
So how do you ruin an orgasm, again? Practice! I have always recommended that you watch him very carefully while manually stimulating his penis. Watch for any indication that he is about ejaculate (to shoot his load, as they say). Once you are familiar with the indicators, or symptoms, of an impending orgasm, you can stop all stimulation and watch what happens. One of two things will occur; He will relax and not have any orgasm at this time, or his orgasm will have been ruined and his semen will flow gently from his penis as I described above.
Now, if the latter happens, you have succeeded in ruining his orgasm and you can pat yourself on the back and continue to ruin a second one, if you like. Or you can simply give him your "phony" sympathy and tell him that maybe next time he will get a full orgasm.
If, on the other hand, the former happens, it means that you simply did not stop in time and you will just have to try again, next time. That should be fun, anyway.
If you have never ruined an orgasm before, I suggest you use the following method to practice. Lubricate his penis so that it glides smoothing in your hand. You may need to add lubrication as time goes by. Most of them have a tendency to dry out or work their way into the skin. Either way, they will lose their effectiveness and you will need to add more.
Grasp his penis gently. Very gently. You want to make very slow, gentle strokes with your hand. Don't be in a hurry. Taking it slow makes it much easier to determine when he is close to ejaculating. Remember, your goal is to learn everything you can about the indications he gives when he is close to ejaculating. If you think he is getting close and might ejaculate, stop. Remove your hand from his penis immediately.
Don't think that because you are not stroking him that it is the same as letting go altogether. It's not. If he can still feel your hand touching his genitals, he may still have a full orgasm. You don't want that. It's much better to stop too soon, than to keep going too long. As long as he does not shoot semen out of his penis the way he normally does, you have been successful. Even if nothing happens. You can continue to stimulate him as long as nothing came out. In fact, you can do it over and over again, for as long as you like. We call that edging, and he will enjoy it. But if you can coax that semen to flow smoothly out without squirting, you have ruined his orgasm and you can do it again, if you like.
The key is to keep his penis lubricated, and watch his reactions very closely as you slowly, and gently, stroke his penis. Don't get discouraged if you fail the first time or two. Remember what I said, "It's better to stop too soon than to keep going too long." And, as always, practice makes perfect.
Ideas for giving a Ruined Orgasm:
- Using hands
- Using your legs or thighs - Link to example .gif
- Outercourse: Link to .gif
- Modified Spooning - similar to outercourse
- Applying numbing cream to urethra
The Stifled Orgasm
There is another type of orgasm possible. If you didn't manage to stop before he reached that point where his ejaculate is pushed out of his penis with all the pressure of a full orgasm, you can still stop him from enjoying what he is expecting to get. You can stop the flow of his ejaculate while it is still inside his penis. I call this a "stifled" orgasm. If you squeeze the sides of the head of his penis tightly between your thumb and forefinger, and hold it until his spasms stop, his semen will back up into his system (usually the bladder) because it has no where else to go. You may accomplish the same thing by squeezing the base of his penis very tightly, but it is more difficult that way. Either way, when you release your grip, you may see one short "blast" of semen, only because of the pressure that built up while you were restricting the flow. You can prevent this if you hold it back long enough for the pressure to bleed off.
The problem with a stifled orgasm is that it may or may not stop the normal bodily reaction to the ejaculation. That is, he may still lose interest in sex, get grumpy and out of sorts for awhile, and not be able to maintain his erection. If this happens, you may have been too late in your attempt to stop the orgasm. Most of the time, however, it will be as good as a ruined orgasm in that you will not see any of the negative effects of a normal, full orgasm.
Stifling the orgasm is a small step away from another cruel method some women use to punish their men if they orgasm with out permission. The post orgasm torment. After an orgasm the head of the penis is hyper sensitive to touch and friction. Post orgasm torment works best if you have your man restrained. After he has started to ejaculate grab a hold of his shaft, rub the head of his penis and watch him squirm. You could also use short strokes that take your hand over the top of his penis for an added torment type. We wouldn't want him to know exactly what we are going to do to him until we start.
Ideas for giving a stifled.
- Hand job/edging
- Hand job with the testicles tied off with cord
- Hand job with a rubberband around the head of the penis
So in order to play the game to your best advantage, you want to prevent allowing him that full orgasm very often and, instead, give him a ruined orgasm, or a stifled one if you must. Remember, in order for him to win the round he must have a full orgasm. All you have to do is prevent that.
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