The Art of The Ruined Orgasm
A ruined orgasm is when you stop providing stimulation to the penis when it starts to cum or right before it starts to cum, thereby ruining the orgasm. The man may feel a brief moment of pleasure but then it immediately vanishes leaving him frustrated. I have to admit that I get a thrill from seeing the desperation in his eyes from wanting to have an orgasm. Some may consider this cruel, but the man enjoys ruined orgasms because it is another form of control that he gets to experience. Denying his orgasm keeps him feeling submissive and controlled and helps to focus his attention on your pleasure. He craves thelse feelings and enjoys the mental game. Making ruined orgasms a normal part of play makes experiencing a full blown orgasm mind blowing and is a very special privilege that is enjoyed more and he will show his appreciation for being allowed to have it.
The thrill and arousal that I experience from his ruined orgasm is only a part of the reason I do it. I also consider the ruined orgasm a powerful tool for controlling him and keeping him obedient and attentive to my needs. The biggest advantage of a ruined orgasm is that it allows the man some release but avoids the post orgasm "slump" that most men experience after a full orgasm. The slump I am referring to is when the man loses all energy and loses interest in sex and pleasing the woman. After a ruined orgasm, many men do not experience the slump or it is very brief. The penis will often remain hard after the ruined orgasm and the level of horniness remains high as well.
The ruined orgasm is a tool to add to your bag of tricks. You can tell your man that he is gong to have an orgasm and then you ruin it. Incorporating this into teasing and denial keeps your man guessing about what to expect next. Now he won't even know if it will be a full orgasm or ruined orgasm will be a fun mind game to play.
Ruining his orgasm also prolongs his denial period. He gets some release but not a full orgasm. Therefore you choose the timeframe of when he is allowed a full orgasm versus ruined orgasms.
The most pleasurable element of male orgasm isn’t the orgasm itself, but the heightened sensitivity of the penis, particularly the glans, during orgasm. If all sensation is denied the moment his orgasm starts, the pleasure is reduced by a good 80%. A ruined orgasm also often leaves him feeling slightly unsatisfied and eager for more reward, which is a better option for keeping him in the proper mindset.
Now some methods of how to ruin the orgasm. As the title of this blog indicates, it is more of an art than a science. There are many techniques and approaches to the ruined orgasm. You can get very creative with it. Each person is different and as you get to know your man's reactions, you can adjust your techniques to maximize his teasing.
The most basic approach is to stroke the penis and then at the moment he first spurts you release his penis and let it twitch and spurt on its own. He will experience very brief pleasure at the first spurt but then once you release and there is no friction the orgasm becomes ruined and he is left frustrated. This is a good way to introduce him to the ruined orgasm.
Another technique is to release the penis before he starts to cum. This may take some practice because you have to anticipate when the orgasm is coming. If you spend a considerable amount of time teasing your guy or if he has been denied an orgasm for a long period of time, this becomes easier to do. I will often bring him to the edge, also known as edging , of orgasm over and over again, stopping before he has an orgasm. I will do this for 30 or more minutes. Usually by then he is mush and can barely control himself. If I decide to go the ruined orgasm route, I will lightly stroke his penis with one or two fingers. It literally twitches and bobs as he tries to hold back his orgasm. At this point, if I gave him permission to orgasm, I could stroke with one finger and then he would shoot. I prefer to tell him to try not to orgasm. I enjoy seeing him struggle. He eventually gets to a point where he can't hold back. The fun part with this is that I can do a stroke or two and then watch his penis as he struggles to prevent his orgasms. There have been times when I have stroked his penis and then watched him struggle for 20 or 30 seconds and then he spurted without me touching him. That is art! It is beauty to see him struggle and work so hard to please and obey me. It is also a power rush to know that I control him so much and that no matter how hard he tries he can not stop me from giving him a ruined orgasm. In these situations I don't feel that it is fair to punish him for having an orgasm without permission. However, I usually give him the disappointed look and tell him how weak he is.
The variations (both mental and physical) you can apply to the above two techniques are endless and that's what makes is fun. Some variations to experiment with:
- Tell him to try and orgasm while you tease him or tell him try not to orgasm while you tease him. Imagine the fun of him trying to orgasm only to have you pull away at the last second and leave him with nothing. Do this a few times and then send him over the edge and let go.
- Use your hands, mouth, tongue, panties, feathers, etc. to tease him. One of the most interesting videos I watched was a woman that held her man's cock straight up and she very slowly licked from bottom to top until he spurted.
- Make him ruin the orgasm himself. This is a good test of his loyalty. Will he let go before he spurts (bonus points for him), at the first spurt (good boy), or will he push the envelope and hold on a little longer after he spurts (bad boy. Punishment time!).
Experiment and have fun with the variations. I think it is great to always keep the man guessing as to what will happen next.
The thrill and arousal that I experience from his ruined orgasm is only a part of the reason I do it. I also consider the ruined orgasm a powerful tool for controlling him and keeping him obedient and attentive to my needs. The biggest advantage of a ruined orgasm is that it allows the man some release but avoids the post orgasm "slump" that most men experience after a full orgasm. The slump I am referring to is when the man loses all energy and loses interest in sex and pleasing the woman. After a ruined orgasm, many men do not experience the slump or it is very brief. The penis will often remain hard after the ruined orgasm and the level of horniness remains high as well.
The ruined orgasm is a tool to add to your bag of tricks. You can tell your man that he is gong to have an orgasm and then you ruin it. Incorporating this into teasing and denial keeps your man guessing about what to expect next. Now he won't even know if it will be a full orgasm or ruined orgasm will be a fun mind game to play.
Ruining his orgasm also prolongs his denial period. He gets some release but not a full orgasm. Therefore you choose the timeframe of when he is allowed a full orgasm versus ruined orgasms.
The most pleasurable element of male orgasm isn’t the orgasm itself, but the heightened sensitivity of the penis, particularly the glans, during orgasm. If all sensation is denied the moment his orgasm starts, the pleasure is reduced by a good 80%. A ruined orgasm also often leaves him feeling slightly unsatisfied and eager for more reward, which is a better option for keeping him in the proper mindset.
Now some methods of how to ruin the orgasm. As the title of this blog indicates, it is more of an art than a science. There are many techniques and approaches to the ruined orgasm. You can get very creative with it. Each person is different and as you get to know your man's reactions, you can adjust your techniques to maximize his teasing.
The most basic approach is to stroke the penis and then at the moment he first spurts you release his penis and let it twitch and spurt on its own. He will experience very brief pleasure at the first spurt but then once you release and there is no friction the orgasm becomes ruined and he is left frustrated. This is a good way to introduce him to the ruined orgasm.
Another technique is to release the penis before he starts to cum. This may take some practice because you have to anticipate when the orgasm is coming. If you spend a considerable amount of time teasing your guy or if he has been denied an orgasm for a long period of time, this becomes easier to do. I will often bring him to the edge, also known as edging , of orgasm over and over again, stopping before he has an orgasm. I will do this for 30 or more minutes. Usually by then he is mush and can barely control himself. If I decide to go the ruined orgasm route, I will lightly stroke his penis with one or two fingers. It literally twitches and bobs as he tries to hold back his orgasm. At this point, if I gave him permission to orgasm, I could stroke with one finger and then he would shoot. I prefer to tell him to try not to orgasm. I enjoy seeing him struggle. He eventually gets to a point where he can't hold back. The fun part with this is that I can do a stroke or two and then watch his penis as he struggles to prevent his orgasms. There have been times when I have stroked his penis and then watched him struggle for 20 or 30 seconds and then he spurted without me touching him. That is art! It is beauty to see him struggle and work so hard to please and obey me. It is also a power rush to know that I control him so much and that no matter how hard he tries he can not stop me from giving him a ruined orgasm. In these situations I don't feel that it is fair to punish him for having an orgasm without permission. However, I usually give him the disappointed look and tell him how weak he is.
The variations (both mental and physical) you can apply to the above two techniques are endless and that's what makes is fun. Some variations to experiment with:
- Tell him to try and orgasm while you tease him or tell him try not to orgasm while you tease him. Imagine the fun of him trying to orgasm only to have you pull away at the last second and leave him with nothing. Do this a few times and then send him over the edge and let go.
- Use your hands, mouth, tongue, panties, feathers, etc. to tease him. One of the most interesting videos I watched was a woman that held her man's cock straight up and she very slowly licked from bottom to top until he spurted.
- Make him ruin the orgasm himself. This is a good test of his loyalty. Will he let go before he spurts (bonus points for him), at the first spurt (good boy), or will he push the envelope and hold on a little longer after he spurts (bad boy. Punishment time!).
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