Chastity Cycle

What Is a Chastity Cycle?

A chastity cycle is 30 days in chastity without an orgasm. When beginning chastity play, it is just that: /play/. You are unsure how it will work or benefit you. Giving it a few days at first is great, but it does not help you understand how chastity play enhances your relationship. It simply helps you decide if Relationships are like underwear. Unless you keep things fresh, they can go bad pretty
quickly.

There are four phases of a chastity cycle. During each of these phases, he will need different things from his Keyholder. Bear in mind that these phases are more like interchangeable parts than predictable patterns within a chastity cycle.

They each take place within a man’s cycle of chastity, but they may not occur in the same order every time. Nor may they last the same amount of time each time they occur. Accurate and open feedback during chastity play is vital for you to know how to lead and support one another.

Phase 1: Arousal

As a man enters chastity, his senses become heightened. He becomes more physically sensitive to every pleasurable sensation, as well as to stimuli he never perceived pleasurable before.

For example, the feeling of a soft breeze brushing across his bare skin will give him goose-flesh and pucker his nipples. He will luxuriate in these heightened sensations and he will want to play more frequently during this time.

I offer Dylan more tease and denial play, or I arrange to cuckold him during this phase. This capitalizes on the natural emotions, physical sensation and psychological state he is experiencing during this time.

Phase 2: Emotional

Once the arousal phase passes, the emotional phase quickly takes hold. This goes well beyond the common feelings often experienced immediately or shortly following intense play.

The emotional phase is a prolonged state of being where a man requires more intimacy, reassurance, and bonding. This is a great time to go on dates, either away from home or at home to maintain or restore the value-purpose balance in your relationship. Create time to practice transparent honesty, non-sexual intimacy, and learn more about one another.

In addition to date nights, I offer Dylan intimacy through personal service and training because he loves being of service. This fulfills his need to feel purposeful and helps us grow closer.


Phase 3: Reactance

Reactance theory states that people will often resent the loss of a freedom and will rebel by doing the opposite of what they are told.

This phase is often where most people struggle with what they perceive to be “relationship problems” or “chastity problems.” Arguments, even seemingly petty ones, ensue more frequently. This is a time when newly established power dynamics teeter if not built on a solid foundation.

Carefully review what you have learned from The FCR Concept as a whole, as well as any guidelines or rules you have set in place for your relationship. Employ domestic discipline (i.e. spanking, corner time, extra chores, writing lines, etc.) to encourage better behavior or corrective behavior in your supportive partner. You will find these tools most useful during this phase.

When Dylan struggles with psychological reactance, he needs more domestic discipline and conditioning. I offer this to him, within his physical limits, according to the agreement we have.

Phase 4: Plateau

The final phase in a chastity cycle, before a new cycle begins, is the plateau. During this phase, a man finds he is low on energy, so focus on restorative activities. He may struggle to think straight, concentrate, or remember simple tasks. Grant him some leeway during this time with gentle reminders, provided he is not deliberately belligerent in his actions, which is a clear sign that he is still in phase three.

Instead, create time in his schedule for a nap or increased down time. Encourage more frequent journaling to help clear his head and enable him to express all that he is experiencing during this phase. Though the plateau phase is a restful phase physically, there is much going on inside your supportive partner’s mind! Journaling is a wonderful tool to share all those delicious thoughts in preparation for the next cycle.

When Dylan reaches his plateau, he needs rituals and rest. I offer him more vanilla activities like date nights for the two of us focusing on his interests. Keeping the home mellow and calm is important for him, too, because he is introverted.

I may even pamper him a bit by serving him calming tea or giving him a massage. Likewise, giving him plenty of introspective quiet time to himself to read, write in his journal, or simply sit quietly and pet his favorite cat is important.


What to Expect During a Chastity Cycle

As the Keyholder, you can have all the sexual attention you want. There are even strap-ons designed to go over a chastity device! As the keyheld, you can come out of your chastity device for hygiene, inspections and tease and denial play. The /only/ thing you cannot do is have a traditional orgasm during your cycle. This means that you may not have direct or indirect stimulation to your penis that results in ejaculation.

Overall, the desired effect of a chastity cycle is twofold. It makes you acutely aware of all your needs in your relationship. More importantly, you become more in tune with your Keyholder’s needs. Once that base urge has no outlet, the shift in perception toward other things is inevitable. You will notice all the minute details about your Keyholder that make her uniquely sexy. Plus, you will have the time, energy, and attention level to work on your relationship.

Now, for a word of caution. /Beware of the tricks your mind will play/. While you are in chastity for 30 days, your mind will play tricks on you. You will question whether you will ever be set free again.
Irrational fears may come up during this time. This is an opportunity to practice transparent honesty, and ask for reassurance.